Last week’s dance class was rough. There were two hip hop classmates who wouldn’t stop staring at Jordan and she didn’t feel up to confronting the kids. I got a bit saucy about staring on this blog… And it opened up some great conversations. But while us grown ups work on refining how we raise our kids to learn and grow around differences, Jordan has to navigate reality. So this week… She did something a little different for dance class.

She made her point about ending the stares with the help of a t-shirt. Don’t Stare, Just Ask.

Pretty cool, eh? When I first gave her the shirt, Jordan felt a little embarrassed. Maybe the shirt is too much to the point. But after she put it on and I added a few ribbons to keep the sleeves up, she felt a bit more confident to make her point. Seriously, don’t stare, just ask!

During this week’s dance class, Jordan tells me she felt like no one was staring. Unfortunately, the shirt didn’t help with questions. No one asked. But she certainly felt a little more empowered. Jordan also told me she felt a little strange about being so open about how she feels when people see her limb difference.

That said, I sat down with her right before bed and I asked her how she really felt after trying out a “Don’t Stare, Just Ask” shirt. Her biggest feeling… She’s very happy. (And she proceeded to sing Happy.)

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Today I got to go to a Kidz Bop concert. We got to sing and dance and I even got to go up on stage beside Ashlynn. She was the one who invited me up on the stage. That was kind of her. She is my favorite Kidz Bop kid! On the stage, I danced to What Does the Fox Say.

My friend got to come to the show with me! During the show, the kids threw out some t-shirts. They dropped one on the ground and I got to keep it! I also got a bracelet and a flashy stick. And it was for free! I had so much fun.

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More support for families of limb different kids

September 15, 2014

For the last almost nine years since Jordan was born, I’ve craved community. I founded Born Just Right to help connect with families and help share the lessons we’ve learned about growing up with limb differences with others. But I know I can only offer some perspective and support. That’s why I am thrilled to [...]

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Dolphin Tale 2 inspires us to help Camp No Limits

September 12, 2014

Today is the day we have waited a long time to happen… The release of Dolphin Tale 2! Jordan and I were incredibly lucky to have a chance to attend an early screening of the movie. Jordan brought along her special Winter Dolphin stuffed animal and watched the whole movie intently. It was SO cool to [...]

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Let’s celebrate unicorns

September 11, 2014

Yesterday’s post asking everyone to not stare, just ask spread far and wide. I’m honored so many people joined in on the conversation surrounding the topic. That post inspired an awesome discussion on Facebook based on a question a Born Just Right commenter had: If you’re encouraging someone to not stare and ask questions, how [...]

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Can we teach our kids to stop staring?

September 10, 2014

Seriously. Can we raise children who choose to ask questions and speak directly to people who look or act differently? Can we have open conversations with our children to discuss why it can be so painful to whisper and point at people who are different or act differently? I’m so tired of it. Jordan’s tired [...]

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A cross country learning experience

September 9, 2014

I try to be in town for the most important things in my kids’ lives. But since I took a new job almost two years ago, I have missed a couple band concerts and a few school events. But most of the time, Randy is in town to help capture the moments so I don’t [...]

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Why I don’t share many limb difference photos other than Jordan

September 4, 2014

Photography is my one of my favorite past times. After years of working in the broadcast television industry, I picked up a solid eye for images. I love taking pictures of the family, nature, our dog, sports… You name it. But the one thing I’m trying to be more careful about is sharing photos of [...]

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The end of a season

September 3, 2014

As school continues in full swing and many kids in other parts of the country kick off a new school year, we are saying goodbye to our awesome pool. It’s a community that is full of regular people who like to hang out by a pool. There are no airs. There’s just fun and conversation. [...]

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Why I hide my arm – An adult perspective

August 29, 2014

I’d like to introduce you to Christine. I’m lucky to have met Christine during this summer’s Nubability Athletics camp. (I snagged her for a selfie – she’s notorious about avoiding photography.) She attended the summer camp as an adult mentor. Before meeting her in person, she has offered fantastic insight on the Born Just Right [...]

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Even Jordan gets nervous in new situations

August 28, 2014

I had mentioned earlier this week that Jordan was jumping into cross country. She jumped into all kinds of running events in the last year and wants to join in on kid triathlons next year. I’m really excited for her because she’s turning into a great runner and cross country is a fun way to [...]

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How to respond to difficult questions

August 27, 2014

A physical difference is noticeable… and many cultures around the world struggle with accepting differences. Even if we live in a culture that doesn’t make it easy to live with a physical difference, I focus on helping Jordan grow up with confidence and the knowledge that she can try it all with one hand. A [...]

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Cross country season and other new changes

August 26, 2014

Today kicks off a brand new season of activities for the kids. Jordan has decided that she wants to start working toward her goal of participating in triathlons by joining our town’s youth cross country program. She and I started running together last year and she’s really taken to it. I’m excited she’s willing to [...]

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How Winter the Dolphin inspires Jordan

August 25, 2014

One month after the movie, Dolphin Tale, was released, our family had a special gift of visiting Winter at the Clearwater Marine Aquarium. October 2011 will forever be a special memory for us. But it also changed the way we view prosthetics in our household.  When Jordan was a baby and we started using prosthetics, [...]

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Celebrating the new school year while Mom is away

August 19, 2014

I have an amazing opportunity to speak at a TEDx event at the Poynter Institute in St. Petersburg, Florida today. I’s a huge honor but it also means I’m missing the kids’ first day of school. I know there are a lot of parents who are never able to send their kids off on the [...]

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